Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Moms and Social Media Part 2

I continue where I left off - civil discourse.

When talking a coworker and fellow mom, she explained why doesn't use social media -

"I feel like it's a way to brag" - at the time I didn't she her point. She is a great coworker and mom to two school aged kids. Why wouldn't want to share her kids accomplishments not just with is but with family spread far and wide? But at the heart of her statement lies consideration to the moms who can't brag that their children did ballet, swam, got an A, or even went to school.

Damn. Check mate. Her statement puts things in perspective.

From issues of privacy to idea of "look at me" the idea of parenting and doing so digitally raises new issues and questions to the concept of "sharing".

For me, I enjoy my privacy. I don't like pictures of myself in the public domain. I post pictures online as proof of life for my parents and in laws (no. Seriously).

As my parents, particularly my dad, are increasingly become digitally present, I want to become more physically present. My dad is more and more using Facebook as way to digitally parent me - once I left home you are not "Dad the life manager/partner/Coach" but "Dad" - I really don't anything other than support. His job stopped a long time ago. He also used Facebook like a sibling chat room - even more reason to have no digital presence.

Slowly, I'm seeing my coworkers point.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Moms and Social Media Part 1

Well well well.

Mommy bloggers. Mommy tweeters. Mommy pinners. Mommy Activists (you know who you are). There is something for everyone.

For the most part, we can learn a lot from each other. From style, recipe swaps, professional development, and everything in between (including leading out-more on that later).

Yet when we try to one up each other one of two results happen:

Sometimes we move like ships in the night.

Other times we don't even try to ignore each other but go for the jugular -

Yep - while we physically don't snatch each other wigs off - we do so visually and verbally. I mean have you read your twitter feed theses days? Just have a counterpoint and see where that gets you with the following crowds:

The BeyHive
Kardash Krewe
The social activities
Anything on Melissa Harris Perry/Don Lemon/MSNBC/CNN/Vox/WashPo/WashPo-The Fix

It's get you no where. And fast too. You'll be spinning in circles fast than Clark Griswold in London.

Hmmm. While I agree taking a stand is great - stand firm chick; using social media as a bully pulpit (Teddy Roosevelt much?) is wrong. Getting your ideas out = good. Not allowing forum of ideas and counterpoints = bad.

Let's be more civil.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Retreat Weekend

It is that time year again - Church retreat time.  A time to cringe when I have to tell my boss that I need time off because of religious event (not an observance) - I would normally not cringe but as my job has the possiblity daily cringe/reflux factor yeah I just hate the hassle.

In terms of brevity and space, I'm keeping my stuff pretty simple - yoga pants and tunics all nicely wrapped up in my Lo & Sons Catalina Bag.

In terms of entertainment - cause I need my tools:

  • Ipad for emails and reading newspaper
  • Book for down time
  • Bible for Bible Study
  • Earphones so I can listen to my audio book or just jam out to Taylor Swift.
  • Charger cords

These will be wrapped up in my Lo & Sons OG bag.

Retreat Weekend

Old Navy fitted sweater

Blue shirt
$155 - mcgregor-fashion.com

American Vintage t shirt
$70 - repertoirefashion.co.uk

Old Navy stripe tank top

Neil Barrett short skirt
$600 - farfetch.com

Monki hipster panty
$7.76 - monki.com


Old navy activewear

Agent Provocateur black bra

Old Navy ponte pants

Leather boots

Lucky Brand black flat

Weekender bag

Lightweight scarve

Monday, October 20, 2014

The photo challenge

Two weeks ago, my cousin in law (it's a thing) challenged me to a photo challenge that sought to achieve the following:

To post pictures of you
Explain what beauty is

Yeah since I don't do rules, I just posted pictures with the my lessons learned on the last day.

Wednesday Morning - Hump Day Sophisticated

My Olivia and Clara Crossover Thursday

Gone Girl Date Night


Wednesday Muli-tfunctional Style

What did I learn from all this?

1) I hate pictures of myself. You don't see all of me and you can judgements based on what you see.
2) Beauty is more than skin deep - it is the feelings, good and bad, along with the shared experiences of the moment you capture in a photo.
3) I value my relationships with my kids more than anything.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Sunday Morning Work Session

I'm coming off the most stressful month. A year ago, I was chiding...CHIDING grown ass men for not doing the one job they have to do.

This year, operations went off without a major hitch. I have been busting my azz getting numbers balanced for our limited operations (until December). Just really busy. Really hectic. I actually forgot to just function for a week - get up/work/home-for 7 days straight.

I wasn't give a choice on working a Sunday - a preferred day of rest for me. So given I had no scheduling autonomy, I showed that I can dress any which way I wanted.

Comfy with my stereo and my audio book in tow.

Sunday Morning Work Session

Old Navy graphic tee

Hue checkered socks
$19 - bloomingdales.com

Nike shoes
$140 - office.co.uk

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Project Management

How does shit get done? That's the one question I don't ask.

For me I found Asana.

Haven't heard of it? You will.

It leverages your work email and calendar and allows you to add team members (up to 15 for free).

I run formulation from start to finish for my bureau. Working with a committee of a dozen regional contacts to briefing senior leadership, I have to be able to mange several budgets at any time (current year, new budget and new budget plus one). Always running.

Which is why Asana is amazing. I have different work zones (home and office) and then each budget is it's own project process. I can delegate tasks out to team members and special leads if I need something.


In terms of daily management, I use a daily docket.

Yes. Sometimes I do need to be reminded to run like hell from my office.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Gone Girl Date Night

Two weeks ago - my husband, Attractive Al and I, went on a date night.  They are few and far between - just a reality of DC living.  We try but its hard.  Moving on.

We headed to the Mosaic District to see Gone Girl (read my review of the book from 2013 here).

You can read the reviews (courtesy of the NY Times).  You can read the commentaries of Rosemund Pike's performancefeminism, oral sex, Ben Affleck's ween…actually that last one was hilarious and NSFW (be warned).

What I liked about the movie was its connection to the book.  Yes, there are deviations but I understand you cannot show everything and logistically some things shouldn't be shown.  Plus with the book's author at the helm of screenwriting the movie, it is pretty faithful account of a marriage gone sour fast.  Its gory but the goriness shows the depth and depravity of this woman who honestly believe she is the right.

Now the my review of the new upcoming hood in the DC area - Mosaic District.  Haven't been?  You are not missing much if you are not in Virginia.  Its a crowded town center which I'm sure for the residents of this area - me?  Not so much.  While full of restaurants, parking is limited, and people jockey for space constantly.  We had to drive through two full garages before stalking down a parking space (damn it isn't holiday shopping season yet).  Needless to say, AA, wasn't happy.  We ended up parking, running to the theater with minutes to spare (we allocated 90 minutes - we spent an hour in traffic, getting into the MD, and parking), and scarfing down nachos and junk at the theater.  Review:  get the nachos with the chips on the side and the junk?  get it but don't let your significant other near without threatening to stab them with a fork.